How Recognize The Signs Of Domestic Violence And Abuse

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People love those who respect them and they respect those who love them. Along with other relationships, this also holds true for intimate relationships. Love is not a possibility if one fears the other. A person in an abusive relationship never claims to love the other person. If your partner is abusive, the best step you can take is to get out of the relationship.

You can only abandon a relationship when you know the act was an abusive one and that you were a victim of abuse. In this article, we will guide you to recognize the signs of domestic violence and abuse and if needed, contact a Domestic Violence Attorney

Why do people abuse?

The sole purpose of domestic violence and abuse is to gain and maintain total control over the other partner, their thinking and behavior.

Common signs of Abuse

An abuser may use any of the following tactics to manipulate the behavior of the other partner. These tactics include fear, guilt, shame, threat, hurt and intimidation:

Emotional abuse – Abuse can be non-physical when the partner’s verbal behavior hurts the other person. It includes name-calling, yelling, blaming, shaming, intimidation, Isolation, and controlling behaviors. In addition, the abuser may threaten to physically harm the other person if the other person doesn’t obey them.

One may think that physical abuse is worse than emotional abuse, but that wouldn’t be true. Both, emotional and physical abuses are damaging. However, in many cases, emotional abuse is far more damaging. It harms the inner-self which takes years to heal and the scars it leaves often stay for life.

Economic or financial abuse – The abuser uses money to control the partner. In such cases, one should note if any or more of the following hold true for their partner.

Withholds money or credit cards
Rigidly controls the spouse’s finances
Makes an account for every penny the other spends
Withholds basic necessities (food, clothes, medications, shelter)
Steals from the partner
Prevents the partner from working or choosing n career
Sabotaging the partner’s job

If one or more of the above holds true, then you are in a financially abusive relationship.

Other signs of abuse

Here are other signs of living in an abusive relationship if you:

Go along with everything your partner says and does
Seem afraid or anxious to please your partner
Talk about your partner’s temper, jealousy, or possessiveness
Have frequent injuries, with the excuse of “accidents”
Receive frequent, harassing phone calls from your partner
Frequently miss work, school, or social occasions, without any explanation
Go along with everything your partner says and does
Dress in clothing designed to hide bruises or scars

Your partner is abusing you if he/she

Embarrasses you in private and especially in public
Threatens to kill themselves
Look at you or act in ways that scare you
Threatens to kill you
Controls your behavior, who do you meet and where do you go
Stops you from seeing your family members or friends
Threatens to take away or hurt your children
Threatens to kill your pets
Acts like the abuse is no big deal or is your fault, or even denies doing it

Be sure you notice these signs to determine whether your relationship has problems or not.